I loved the song I’m Every Woman song by Chaka Khan. I would sing to the top of my lungs: I’mmmmmmm every woman, it’s all in me, anything you want done, baby, I’ll do it naturally. This song made feel like I could do anything. It’s got a real good groove to it and every time I heard it I was on top of the world. At least that is what I felt. I even love the part when Chaka says I can read your thoughts right now, everyone from A to Z…….. because in my mind I could. That made me feel powerful. Yet one day, I saw these words I am Every Woman, It’s all in me in a different light.
I was on a three-month sabbatical from social media, people, places and things. So much was going on. I was doing a lot of things that did not seem to be fun anymore and my immune system was under attack. On this journey of self-discovery and love, I’ve learned to listen to my body. Any kind of pain or illness is your body attempting to get your attention. Some other clues for me where my short temper, agitation, not sleeping, and just feeling tired. It was time for me to take off my superwoman cape. Yet I was resisting the feeling of taking off the cape because I am every woman and it’s all in me too: 1) multitask and make sure everything gets done, 2) say yes when I really mean no, 3) support everyone who needs me, 4) give my last or the shirt off of my back, and 4)sacrifice myself, expecting others to know I need help too.
Question for you: “Does any of this resonate with you or am I the only one? There comes a point when I don’t want to read your thoughts from A to Z and I certainly do not want to be every woman. I still trying to figure out the woman that’s in me. Here’s what so funny, as a wife, mother, sister, friend, godmother, business partner, coach, and teacher I am expected to read everyone thoughts from A to Z. At least that is what I felt and allowed to be put on me. Has anyone ever said to you, “do you have eyes in the back of your head or are you psychic?” I have been asked these questions many times. I laugh it off, yet when I heard those questions, I did feel some sense of pride. Let’s face it we grab on to what we think will make us feel good or give us a little attention, even if that attention drains us.
This is what I know for sure, I am every woman whether I want to be or not. I represent that mom who is overwhelmed and tired; that woman who says yes to things that she really wanted to say no too; that family member who is expected to be there for everyone; and that woman who puts herself last on the list. Here’s the other thing I figured out, I cannot take care of anyone else until I take care of me first because it really is all in me. Everything I need is already within me. Everything you need is already within you. We have to move ourselves to the top of the list. We have to make ourselves a priority. Find a few minutes out of your day to just take a breath. That is where I started. It is amazing how your body relaxes when you stop to take a breath. Let’s do it right now! Ready — close your eyes, breathe in deep through your nose (your abdomen should expand), hold for a 5-second count and exhale out through your mouth with an AHAAAA sound. This will help to release whatever you’ve been holding in that moment or day. Do it has often as you need too, your body, mind, and spirit will thank you. This is truly a great place start.
So, this is my take on I’m every woman; I am not just my sister keeper, I am my sister. So that means I must make myself a priority. I must fill my cup first. Everyone else will receive the overflow from my cup. They don’t get what is in my cup. That’s for me. What’s in your cup is for you! That’s how it MUST be. I am every woman, it’s all in me because I am my sister!